Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Seeing Christ in Crisis


We woke up to the distant sound of thunder followed by cracks of lightning. For the next 10-12 hours we endured 9 emergency alerts, 3 tornado warnings, hail hitting our windows in the dark, huge amounts of rain bombarding the streets and a power outage that lasted 10 hours. The rain and wind were so ferocious that at one time, I watched the rain go sideways.  The trash can that was put out the night before, was in someone else’s yard, not sure who put it upright and brought it back to us in the early morning hours. (Thank you)  
 

The result:  Houston has experienced historic flooding.  Lives have been lost, property loss and hearts overwhelmed.  We have experienced these disasters before, but this one felt weird, almost unexpected.  Yes, we all heard that there would be severe thunderstorms and rain, chance of flooding….But I think when we get in the groove of life, we just expect each week to look a little like the last.   BUT….
This world is aching; it is waiting for all of this to be over.  Sin is a funny thing, it affects everything- our lives, our hearts… our world.  The earthquakes and droughts, tornados and extreme snow, heat, floods, all of this is a result of a hurting world.  This world is waiting for this time after the “fall” to be over.
CREATION IS GROANING!
For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.            Romans 8:22-25
 
 
I was talking to someone today as I got ready to combat the streets to get to work.  They told me when the rain first started; they began to pray because God has answered them before when it came to weather.  But God told him “I’m not going to answer this time, they need this”. 
Most of us could not imagine a God who says He loves us, not answering.  We can’t imagine that He would just sit on His throne and ALLOW us to go through this, again!   While talking to this man, his take away was that we become better versions of ourselves when we get out of ourselves.  When we see a crisis, we tend to become answers to problems, instead of creating them.  The images of community helping community will burn in our minds for a while.  (That is ….until we get past this and forget, then we are subject to start treating each other like enemies again.)   But somehow in the midst of tragedies, God can remind us that we actually care about these same people we talk about.  We actually have more in common than we have different.  We want to be loved, accepted, encouraged, and taken care of.  All of us want this.
I love the feeling of true community, especially when my family has changed so over the last few years.  My mom is gone, my stepfather gone, I'm single again, my kids are growing up and my dog is OLD!  But God has soooo many great people around… good people who I can care for and allow them to care for me.  That is how we can see Christ in Our Crisis… He is seen in our love for one another. 
 
 
                                                                                                                                                                                                        So this storm will pass.  We will recover, we will note the day it happened.  News channels will remind us next year and show us the images again.  But hopefully, we will remember more the images of community, people reaching out to each other, neighbors who have never spoken, checking on each other.  Remember those who allowed someone to charge their phone, or when someone lit the BBQ grill with everyone in the neighborhood’s meat that was thawing due to power outages.  Sharing and loving. 
That is how Christ is seen in Crisis!  The real question is:  Can He be seen through you?

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Are You a Knock Off? A Shopper's Guide to Dating!


Knock Offs!


My book, “A Shopper’s Guide to Dating” is not just about shopping, and dating.  In fact, it really stems from knowing and understanding your purpose.  If you don’t know who you are or why you are here, you are subject to allowing people and things in your life that minimizes the gift of YOU.   Knowing who you are allows you to not waste time seeking and dating people that don’t fit you, nor you them.  The book calls those trying to be something or someone else "Knock Offs".  Some people are unintentional, they just APPEAR to be something they are not, that is why time is needed to understand who someone is.  Those who intentionally try to change who they are to be and appear different, are the ones we are talking about today.  

In the book, we define ‘A knock off’ as  - a copy or imitation of someone or something popular; an item intended to look like something it is not.

Normally a knock off will never imitate something that is not popular or viewed as less valuable.  It only works as a knock off if the item being imitated seems to be of greater value.  Trying to be someone we are not is only tempting when we think less of ourselves and more of others.  Since everyone has value, it is daunting to try to compare us to merchandise, but humor me for a moment.  

The Shoe


If you are purposed to be an athletic shoe, you can work to be the best athletic shoe you can be!  Specially designed and crafted to help anyone who wears you and bring comfort and style at the same time.  But what would be rather silly, is for you –an athletic shoe to try to be a 5 inch beaded pump. NO matter how nice it looks, how much someone loves it and how much it costs, that is not what you were meant to be!  So why try to be something you are not? 

We do that when we don’t know the value of who we already are.  Yes, as an athletic shoe, I may never be worn to the Grammy’s, I may never walk the red carpets of life, but if I focus on who I am, I can still be valuable and benefit people where I am. I can be the shoe of choice in the Olympics; I can help a wounded soldier in the worst time of his life.   I can simply bring comfort and protection to someone who is working on being a better version of themselves.  I still have value, great value.

Being a Knock Off looks like trying to fit in where we don’t need to be.  Trying to connect with people that we think are more valuable than we are!  NO ONE is more valuable than you.  And you are no more valuable than anyone else!   The bible tells us that all members are needed in the body, no matter how small they are, they hold a function and purpose.  The arm can’t say that it does not need the leg, nor the ear says that it does not need the tongue.  We are all part of this great body, and all are valuable.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said it like this:
“What I’m saying to you this morning, my friends, even if it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, go on out and sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures; sweep streets like Handel and Beethoven composed music; sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry; (Go ahead) sweep streets so well that all the host of heaven and earth will have to pause and say, “Here lived a great street sweeper who swept his job well.”  If you can’t be a pine on the top of a hill, be a scrub in the valley—but be the best little scrub on the side of the hill, be a bush if you can’t be a tree. If you can’t be a highway just be a trail if you can’t be the sun be a star; It isn’t by size that you win or fail— be the best of whatever you are. And when you do this, when you do this, you’ve mastered the length of life.”

Bottom line:  When you look for someone to spend your life with, you should know who you are before you begin adding and taking away from who you are.  Grant others the same benefit of being who they are.
 
#wisdomspeakstoday

Saturday, February 27, 2016

Shopper's Guide for Men: Survey Results




shoppers guide for men
Survey Results
(book excerpt)

We assume that men don’t like shopping, but that assumption is not really true. It may be they don’t like shopping with women or shopping like women shop! But there are many men who love to shop. In fact, some are ALWAYS shopping.   

Men and Comfort
Most men are not trying to be uncomfortable just to look good, (unlike women with our shoes). When they shop, comfort is in the back of their mind. A shirt collar that is too tight, shoes that hurt, or pants that don’t fit right do not work for most men. They are not typically trying to just look good at any cost. So if he connects with a woman and it gets uncomfortable, meaning there is too much drama to deal with her, they tend to think in terms of refunds. There are some men who will try to avoid the inconvenience and drama of refunds by keeping their purchase while looking for something/someone to replace it.
Men and Refunds

If a man realizes something does not work for him, he WILL refund. If something does not deliver what he wants, if he can’t do anything with it or it does not do what it is supposed to do, he will refund. It might take him a while to decide to end a relationship, and unfortunately, he may window shop at the same time he is thinking. This often causes a lot of confusion as if the window shopping made him make the decision, but it was probably more than that. The White Socks man (note: description earlier in the book) does not like anything about shopping. Since it takes him so long to decide and to venture into the shopping arena, he is the most likely to keep his purchases. For dating, he might be the man who stays in a relationship even though he is not happy. (Women, don’t take advantage of this man if you get one. Make him happy, and he may be the most loyal of all.) 

A Shopper's Guide to Dating: for Men and Women

 by Jacqui Hill Goudeau
 www.wisdomspeakstoday.com (get your copy today)


Friday, January 8, 2016

A Shopper's Guide to Dating!


SHOPPING...

"My earliest memory of shopping was in my mother’s catalogs. Popular department stores like Sears and JC Penney’s mailed catalogs to customers’ homes. There was no such thing as online shopping, so this was the closest thing to it. 

My sisters and I would sit and look through every page of each catalog and say, “That is mine...” “That is yours...” “That’s mine...” (of course, claiming the best-looking items for ourselves.) We played this game with clothing, furniture, household items, and even the men! “That’s your husband…” “That’s mine…” 

At such an early age, we were already learning to “shop” or basically mold our minds to determine our likes and dislikes. No one was really dating- that wouldn’t come for years, but we were learning to “shop.” Newspapers back in that day were simple black and white publications, but the catalogs were colorful and full of clothes that were stylish, and everyone looked happy and rich! 

Our minds were unwittingly moving away from simple, informative, or meaningful things and drawn to the flashy, stylish, and popular. We would turn page after page looking at the skillfully placed models in their perfectly planned attire. Of course, we were kids, we had no money, no job… we weren’t buying anything. But we had the ability to dream way beyond our means!"     Excerpt from "A Shopper's Guide to Dating" 

A Shopper's Guide to Dating is about to be launched! 

You can pre-order your copy or you can buy a ticket to:

A Shopper's Guide to Dating Book Launch 

Thursday, February 11th 
6:30 pm - 9pm 

  Hosted by Jillian "JJ on the Mic" Simmons! 

  • Preorders:  www.wisdomspeakstoday.com 
  • Book Launch tickets & book: www.ashoppersguidetodating.com  


The book launch will be held at 
Dao Chloe Dao (Boutique) 6127 Kirby DriveHouston- Rice Village. Join us for fun, refreshments, Speed Dating, and insight into improving our relationships!



Saturday, December 19, 2015

Resuscitating Our Kids:#3 Teaching Gratefulness

Teaching Gratefulness


If you have ever heard me speak about children before, then you already know that this Blog title is bogus.  Why?  Because I have said for years that gratefulness cannot be taught, it has to be experienced.


I heard a story some time ago about a woman who was looking for legal help in getting her 24-year-old daughter out of her house.  She loved her child but realized that she was not doing anything to better her life and, in fact, was bringing drama to parent’s life.  She lived in a room where she wouldn’t clean anything. Under her bed were leftover food and dirty clothes.  She had no goals and when asked to get up and help around the house, she simply said, “I didn’t ask to be born, you brought me here… you handle it.”  We live in a world where many have been bombarded with a ‘spirit of entitlement’.  

You may ask ... “How do we deal with the ‘spirit of entitlement’ with our kids?”  Well, one of the best ways to battle entitlement is with gratefulness.  We somehow have to let our kids know what it is to be grateful.  The only problem is gratefulness is not what you do, it is a state of being.  It can’t be taught so how do we get our kids to experience it?

Some ways we do this is by:
  • ·      Not giving them everything they ask for
  • ·      Allowing them to work towards goals for things they want
  • ·      Teach them the value of work and money
  • ·      Open a savings account and have them keep track of it
  • ·      Have them participate in volunteer work
  • ·      Visit places where others are hurting or lack basic needs
  • ·      Help them count their blessings:  Remind them of what they enjoy daily

 Years ago, we took children on an outing with our Nursing Home ministry.  Not only did we give them the speech about respecting the resident’s property we made them aware of the smells, and sights that might not be the best.  But we also let them know that some of the residents were parents and grandparents who may not get a visit from their families very often.


It was amazing to see how the hearts of those children were touched.  The kids were respectful, never complained about the various aromas, they were kind and soft spoken during our visit. Being able to go home to a warm house and sit with family meant more to them that night.

Gratefulness is not learned, it is experienced.  It comes from seeing life when it is less than desirable, then looking at yourself.  When you see how your life COULD have been and realize that it isn’t that, It helps to generate gratefulness. 

This season, remind your kids about all those who don’t have what they do. It might be simple things like family or a roof, food on the table or perhaps even the gifts.  Gratefulness is one of the best ways to battle entitlement.  Let’s try to be more grateful and help our children be the same. 


Sunday, November 22, 2015

Resuscitating Our Kids in a Dying World 2

#2 LOVE




 Another function that sustains life for our children is LOVE.


The movie starred an animated princess thrown into a natural world, the real world and she landed in (of all places)... New York!  She was confused about her surroundings, but she relentlessly kept looking for her true love, she knew he was near and looking for her.   Even though people around her were rude, rushing around and didn't seem to notice her, her response to them was still loving and kind.  


Before being caught in a rain storm, she had her tiara stolen from a vagrant with really bad teeth and the harshest thing she could yell at him was “You are not a very nice old man!”  At one point in her frustration, she told her rescuer about the difficult time she was having and he sarcastically smiled and said, “Welcome to New York.”  Without a blink, she smiled and responded, “Why, thank you!”  He didn’t believe in love, but she did and in her attempt to help him with his relationship problems, she broke out into song and began singing, “How does she know you love her?”

We love fairy tales from Disney's "Enchanted", but this is not what our children see everyday. 


When we look at the world today, we hear about so many parents that abuse and hurt their children.  So many kids act out in anger because that is what they know. What they see today is not love.  People who want someone or something so bad they will kill to get it.   How will a young child who is born into a family where someone has died or been hurt in a bad relationship ever trust that love is safe or real?




A child in the line at a grocery store is not caring what political affiliation you are when they peer at you over their parent’s shoulder.  A smaller baby may look at you strangely, but mainly because you are a new face to them. They may be curious, slightly timid, but when the smile covers their face, they are not wondering about your background, race or what neighborhood you live in.  Children are born into so many different environments, but they come out ready and willing to love. The problem is how we pass on our own hatefulness to our children as they listen to what we say about others. 

Our children need and deserve a lifeline of love, we have to do better at allowing our kids to see love so they can love.  Especially since God is love.  We have to do better at loving each other or our children have no example of it.  

How will they know you love them?

Not only should our kids see and experience love from their parents, they should have genuine love and guidance from those around them.  It still takes a village to raise a child.  Since we don’t have liberties that our grandparents had, we can’t openly hug or correct a child, but we can still genuinely care them.  Be there to support them as they grow.  Teach them, mentor them, challenge them, show them how to make good choices.  When we speak well of them, we remind them of purpose and God’s undying love for them!  More than anything else, to show our kids love, we have to be seen showing it to others. 

They know love based on what you do more than what you say.  

Saturday, November 7, 2015

Resuscitating Our Kids in a Dying World


Death can be defined as the termination of functions that sustain life.

There are basic functions that have sustained us, without these functions, life can seem to lack meaning.   Since we know that life is found in God, this is the first of a series that talks about a few things we need to instill in our youth to resuscitate them. If we fail to turn this downward trend, we may lose the next generation.
#1 HOPE





As kids, we used to play all day long!  We would meet up with a couple of friends early in the morning and run through the neighborhood, jump fences, and ride bikes. Though our surroundings were familiar, every day our imaginations would send us to places far away.  We didn’t pay much attention to what tomorrow would bring… tomorrow would just come… and in a sense it would take care of itself.  Our parent’s joy was in sending us out of the house while they recouped energy we drained from them. Even if we got mad at our parents, and talked of running away, we were still back home before the streetlights came on.  That is not how things are for our kids today. Tomorrow can be a challenge to want to see.





A friend that no longer calls, a heart string that is no longer there, a group of kids that think teasing is funny. They are surrounded with temptations to join groups or gangs just to belong.  Parents that have financial or relational issues, too busy to notice a change in countenance.   Our kids are faced with situations that somehow they feel are insurmountable.  Why would a child bring a gun to school?  What happens that makes them think this is an actual way out?  Why would they take their life because of someone else’s opinion?  We can’t imagine the pain they must feel for life to seem to be so… hopeless.







 What would we really do without hope?  Hope keeps us looking towards tomorrow, towards something better, different something good.  Our kids are more suicidal than we ever were, and if we were and we lived past that horrible time, we learned that our challenges were survivable, the world is not perfect, but trouble does not last always!  Our kids need to know and understand that.  They need to know that the sufferings today cannot be compared to tomorrow.  Give your kids hope so they desire to stay here to see tomorrow.  




Real hope is found in God.   I wish I could pretend for those who don’t want to hear it.   But He is the one who makes tomorrow bearable, meaningful.  He is the one who will help us to see past today.  Faith in God is hard to describe to those who are not interested, but for the sake of our kids… point them to Him. He is a lifeline that this generation needs. 



1 Timothy 6:17-19 


Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust (hope) in their money, which is so unreliable. Their hope should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment.  Tell them to use their money to do good. They should be rich in good works and generous to those in need, always being ready to share with others. By doing this,  they will be storing up their treasure as a good foundation for the future so that they may experience true life.