"Multitasking Drama!"

“How was your day?”  I am asked this quite often and, I literally have to stop a moment and think about my day.  It would seem easy to just say “Fine”  “Good” or “It’s going well”, but I often stop to think simply because my day is often in compartments.  Let me explain ...

HOME

I will never forget years ago when I delivered my first born, I was sitting in the hospital bed talking to her.  No one was there and we had this little bit of time together before everyone showed up to see her.   Our conversation (My Conversation) went a little like this:

“You know you are now no longer totally dependent on me right?  Once they cut that umbilical cord, you were separated from me and though I will care for you, you will never be totally dependent on me again.   Now it is my job to get you to be totally dependent on God because He will kick in and take care of you whether we are there or not.  Don’t worry ... I’m not kicking you out or anything, just letting you know that my job now is to get you to depend on Him.”

See when I am at home, I am at home.  I try to focus on who is there, what needs to be done and build up my household.  I try to finish work at work, and then go HOME.   Many of us mix the two so much that we don't really have the time to build a happy family.  I completely understand times that we work and do other things, being a business owner does not let you separate everything so cleanly.  But we can work harder to allow ourselves to put on a hat that says... I am home.

  

WORK

When I was  headed back to work after having my daughter, I was nervously dropping her off at Daycare and this was my conversation with God.   

“Lord, she is Yours.   I can’t be at work and get my job done worrying about her.  We took time and chose who we thought would be a great sitter, and so when I drive away from here and go to work, I need to be able to focus on work- that is what they pay me for.  So when she is home with me, I will do my job, and take care of her, but when she is away from me….  it is Your turn.”

It was a simple prayer, not meant to be disrespectful, but it helped me more than anything.  After that, I would remind myself of that prayer and not worry about my kids when I knew I had done my part.   That’s not always easy to do, it can be difficult to release what you love dearly and allow God to handle it, (as if we love more than He does.)   I encourage you to keep your work focused, do your job, build and conquer.  Understand that we really can’t do a good job worrying about everything that happens at home.  Now to be fair, we do know that sometimes home creeps into work and there are things that have to be handled, so handle them, be very present... then get back to work.  We can do that better when we realize work is not the enemy.  

  

A COMPILED LIFE

I have had the joys of talking to and helping many people over the years.  One thing that I noticed is that when people come to me with anxiety and feeling overwhelmed, it is because we tend to compile everything into this thing we call life.  We take things on all at once and after a while everything begins to look the same.  So if there is a challenge at home, it affects the job.  If the boss is on edge at work, we take that discomfort home.  If our relationships are having difficulty, we are short and difficult with others.  

The enemy has a way of causing us to look at everything that is happening all at the same time.  This causes us to be overwhelmed, stressed and we can often feel hopeless.   I understand multitasking, and I know many can do it well, but we have to be careful when we allow the drama in our life to follow us EVERYWHERE!     

One of my parental sayings is this "There is a place for everything, and if everything is in it's place, the house is clean."  I believe that works in life as well.   See drama loves drama and if you are not careful, you end up with a drama buildup.   If the enemy can keep us Multitasking Drama, we lose because we never find the time to “be still and know He is God.” Put the drama in it's place, and stop letting it wander around. 

I encourage you to take a break!  Take time to think, time to pray, and time to enjoy your life.  We can learn  to do what we can do, and allow God to do  what we cannot.  We can’t fix everything, but we can keep things in their place and allow God to give us insight to fix them all… one at a time.